Measure Family Stress With This Test

Take this quick test to help you evaluate your family's stress level.

• Score 0 if the statement is never true for your family,
• 1 if it's rarely true,
• 2 if it's sometimes true, and
• 3 if it's always true.

blue set __ We often discuss our feelings. __ I understand what's important to my kids. __ (For single parents) I'm comfortable being single. __ We are not under severe financial pressure. __ Work is important, but family is our top priority. __ (For married people) We have a strong relationship. __ (For married people) We are both happy about our roles as parents. __ (For single parents) The kids accept my choice of dates. __ Tension in our house is rare. __ The kids enjoy their school. __ Everyone in the family has a job, and does it without being nagged. __ We share family meals almost every day. __ We have a good time together on vacation. Total blue score: __

yellow Set __ We have frequent arguments. __ (For married people) Sometimes marriage is disappointing. __ Our arguing upsets the kids. __ We have conflicts about how much to spend and on what. __ We don't listen enough. __ (For single parents) My kids get upset when I have a date. __ It seems like there is always someone upset at someone else. __ Work is overwhelming. __ (For single parents) Being single has been very hard for me. __ There is never enough time. __ (For married people) We argue about who should do what with the kids. __ It is impossible to get the kids to do anything around here. __ I've been called in to school to discuss my child's behavior. Total yellow Score: ______

To score: Total up your scores for blue questions and yellow questions separately. Your goal is to have a high blue score and a low yellow score. These are good signs of your family's stress skills.

Score Evaluation

blue score	yellow score	Meaning
33-above (blue)	17-less (yellow)	Wow! Your family has good skills and attitudes which help you handle life's stresses. This makes your home life rich and satisfying.
25-32 (blue)	18-24 (yellow)	You have a strong start. Try practicing your good stress management skills and positive attitudes more, to create even more harmony in the home.
18-24 (blue)	25-32 (yellow)	You're probably under many stresses. Look carefully at these questions and think about ways to improve your score. Remember: It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help.
17-less (blue)	33-above (yellow)	It is important to take action now to improve the health and happiness of your family. Friends, family, or professional help, are all great tools for tough times.